"Mental toughness is essential to success." said Vince Lombardi. He explains further, "Mental toughness is many things and rather difficult to explain. Its qualities are sacrifice and self-denial. Also, most importantly, it is combined with a perfectly disciplined will that refuses to give in. It's a state of mind-you could call it character in action." I like the phrase, "a perfectly disciplined will that refuses to give in." As we continue this series on the Ten Marks of a Coachable Leader we will explore the mental tenacity of a leader.
8. Coachable people are tenacious.
It is no surprise that the words: self-controlled, sober, soundness of mind, vigilant, prudent, disciplined and steadfast find their way in the qualifications of a biblical leader (I Timothy 3:1-7; Titus 1:6-9; I Peter 5:1-11). Coachable leaders stick with it even when the going gets tough. They push through the quitting points with a level head.
During the coaching process, it's common that a leader will “hit a wall” or feel challenged to grow or do something differently. The successful leader sticks with the process until they move through the temporary (and it's always temporary) wall.
In an article on mental toughness, David Yukelson, Ph.D., developed seven helpful insights for elite athletes to strengthen their mental and emotional focus.
1. Unshakable Belief: "Starts with the right attitude and state of mind (know what your core confidence is all about)." Confidence in God, His work, His calling and gifting in your life.
2. Relentless Focus: "Program your mind for success ahead of time with positive affirmations and expectations."
3. Establish Strong Routines: "Develop a systematic pre-performance routine that clicks on desired mental-emotional state of mind." Every elite athlete goes through a personal ritual before their performance.
4. Poise and Composure: "Learn how to let go of mistakes quickly if things do not go the way you want. The key part of mental training is about compensating, adjusting, and trusting."
5. Reframe the Negative Voices: "Remove the stinking thinking. Start with awareness of situations that cause you to get frustrated, rushed, intimidated, lose focus – then reframe the negativity into positive, mentally tough self-suggestions."
6. See Failure as a Stepping Stone: "The champions approach to overcoming adversity is 'play to win' as opposed to 'fear making mistakes'." Over his career he missed 9000 shots, missed 26 game winning shots, lost 300 games and Michael Jordan said, “I failed over and over, that is why I succeed.”
7. Be a Difference Maker: "Step up and deliver a peak performance when it matters the most."
These insights remind me of King David's words to his son Solomon as he set him forward to leading the nation and building the temple.
“And you, Solomon my son, know the God of your father and serve him with a whole heart and with a willing mind, for the Lord searches all hearts and understands every plan and thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you, but if you forsake him, he will cast you off forever. Be careful now, for the Lord has chosen you to build a house for the sanctuary; be strong and do it.” I Chronicles 28:9-10
Reflective Questions
- What is the most significant thing that could shake your confidence in your current role?
- What are key ways in which you can be distracted and lose focus?
- What routines are you using to help you maintain a healthy perspective?
- Do you know your emotional IQ?
- Are you aware of the triggers that get you frustrated, rushed, intimated or unbalanced?
- How are you at bouncing back from failure?
- What are the general factors to you delivering a peak performance in your current role?
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Next Time: Coachable people possess a constructive spirit of discontent.
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