Henry Blackaby and Claude King in their landmark book, Experiencing God wrote, "You must make major adjustments in your life to join God in what He is doing." As we continue our series on being a coachable leader these two authors hit the nail right on the head. Coachable leaders are ready and willing to make the needed changes and adjustments in their lives. Coachable leaders do this because they understand the bigger issue which is: Alignment. Alignment with God and His purposes. Without alignment with God one cannot and will not experience all that God has in store for them.
Bob Logan suggests a list of key roadblocks that all leaders need to consider when wrestling with adjustment/alignment issues:
- personal discipline
- relational intimacy
- complacency with status quo ministry
- lack of vision for the harvest
- fear and timidity in giving leadership
- lack of certainty in calling
- poor delegation and management skills
- hireling mentality
- poor change skills
6. Coachable people make key adjustments in their lives.
Coaching isn't about just getting support to continue one's life pretty much as it has been. Rather, the leader who makes key adjustments in his personal and professional life is probably getting more out of the coaching process than those who are not ready to change.
Here are a few key adjustments leaders need to make:
1) Adjusting their Attitudes
As a coach one of my roles is helping leaders "keep their head in the game." As spiritual leaders every day is filled with troubles and triumphs, heartaches and joys, sweetness and sadness. The mental challenges in an ever changing environment are daunting. They are emotionally draining and any leader on any given day can drift into discouragement.
I was recently asked how I handle all the complexities of my job. My response was "a clear vision that is refreshed by God's word." The LORD said to Joshua, "Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may have good success wherever you go. This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success." (Joshua 1:7-8)
The Lord knew that Joshua would need daily doses of God's word to keep his attitude in check as he led God's people. Coachable leaders adjust their attitudes daily by aligning their thoughts with God's thoughts.
2) Adjusting their Filters
We all have filters on our email programs that keep out all the junk mail we receive. And yet there are times when both the good and wanted information ends up in our junk folder. Coachable leaders need to pay attention to the information they are receiving, listening to and taking to heart. In a day of information overload leaders need coaches who are going to help them filter that information so they can take the appropriate steps for implementing it successfully. Here are a few coaching questions:
- Who am I listening to?
- What makes them creditable?
- What voices do I need to listen to more frequently?
- What voices do I need to stop listening to?
- What are the best voices to help me in my particular situation?
- What voices can help me discern my next steps?
Cultivating the right to counsel is critical. Paul Stanley wrote, "A Christian worker needs a relational network which embraces mentors, peers and emerging leaders in order to ensure a balanced healthy perspective on life and ministry."
3) Adjusting their Priorities
Life is full of adjustments. Nothing is more important than a leader's priorities and yet in the heat of ministry and work our priorities can get out of whack. Coachable leaders allow others to speak into their lives when it comes to adjusting their priorities. The Apostle Paul gave us a great list of priorities in the last several chapters of his letter to the Christians in Ephesus.
- God - Ephesians 5:1-20
- Mate - Ephesians 5:21-33
- Family - Ephesians 6:1-4
- Work - Ephesians 6:5-9
- Ministry - Ephesians 6:10-20
Here are a few reflective questions:
- God:
- What do I need to adjust in my daily routine that reflects that God is my first priority?
- What do I need to adjust to protect my relationship with God?
- What do I need to adjust in my financial life that acknowledges God is first in my finances?
- What do I need to adjust in my relationships that recognizes that God has first place?
- Mate/Family:
- What do I need to adjust in my life that reflects the priority my spouse has in my life?
- What do I need to adjust that protects and nurtures my relationship with my spouse?
- What do I need to adjust in my life that acknowledges the place of my children in my heart?
- What do I need to adjust that protects and affirms my children?
- Work/Ministry
- What is the best use of my time that will bring the best results for my organization?
- What six things can I accomplish today in my work?
- What do I need to adjust in my relationships at work? With my superiors? My equals? My subordinates? My clients? My congregation?
- What 5 roles do I need to focus on to take our organization to the next level?
- What 5 things do I need to delegate to make the best use of my gifts and time?
- What one thing could I do this month to help my church reach its potential?
Next Time: Coachable people embrace reality
Check out the Ten Marks of a Coachable Leader series.