Solomon wrote, "Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice" Proverbs 10:13. This summer we started our journey of examining the qualities of a coachable leader. This month we are going to examine how the leader comes to a coaching appointment or a one-on-one meeting with a supervisor.
4. Coachable people come ready to report, discuss, adjust and adapt.
Here is my coachable equation: Readiness + Adaptablity = Coachable. Today we will take a closer look at two keys of Readiness and Adaptablity in the life of a leader.
Readiness is an attitude. Readiness is something that only you can control. Coming into a coaching relationship mentality alert, emotionally prepared and spirituality fresh opens oneself to change. Entering a coaching session with the current data, completed action items, and well thought out questions says to your coach this is important and I respect your time. When someone comes ill prepared to a coaching session they are saying non-verbally "I don't want to be here" or "This is just not important to me." When you come ready to give, that is when you will receive the most from the coaching relationship. Giving has a way of opening up oneself to receive more. Coming ill prepared is a way of closing oneself up to any chance for meaningful change; but readiness is only one part of the equation.
Adaptability is an attitude also. There are only a few things in life that are unchangeable. The message is always unchangeable but the methods are always changing. The commands of scripture, the essentials of the faith, and the truth of the gospel are never to be considered adaptable. Yet to be coachable means that we hold our methods and personal bias lightly.
In a research project on adaptability in military personnel the reseachers discovered seven character traits that predict one's ability to adapt.(HT)
- Self-efficacy: Self-efficacy refers to one’s beliefs in one’s abilities, one's believe that they have the capablities to handle challenging situations. They have a internal motivation that says, "I will change, I can change and the goal is so important that I must change."
- Resiliency: Resiliency is the ability to recover quickly from change, hardship or misfortune. The importance of resiliency can be seen in studies by the Center for Creative Leadership (CCL) that show that resisting change can derail executives’ careers, while being resilient and learning from mistakes can enhance them.
- Openness: Openness is one of the “Big Five” personality dimensions and refers to one’s curiosity, broad-mindedness, and receptiveness to new environments and events. That is, those who are high on Openness are likely to approach a new environment or set of circumstances with curiosity and interest. This positive attitude, together with a greater willingness to try new things and be creative, in turn increases the chances of effectively handling changes in one’s environment.
- Achievement motivation: Achievement motivation refers to one's desire to achieve results and master tasks beyond others' expectations, and is a subcomponent of the Big Five dimension of Conscientiousness. People who are high on Achievement Motivation are more likely to persist in their efforts to handle difficult situations, such as changing environments, rather than give in to frustration.
- Internal Locus of Control: The feeling that one controls the events in one’s life.
- Tolerance of Ambiguity: The ability to cope easily with environmental uncertainty.
- Willingness to Learn: Demonstrating enthusiasm and curiosity toward learning new things. (HT)
- How do you prepare yourself for meetings with supervisors or coaches?
- What can you do to prepare yourself better for those meetings?
- What are the areas in your life where you are more adaptable?
- What are the areas in your life where you struggle with change?
- List your motivations for entering into a coaching relationship.
- List reasons why people are resistant to change.
Next: Coachable people take initiative with the coach, instead of the coach pushing or motivating them.
Check out the Ten Marks of a Coachable Leader series.